SELF IMPROVEMENT

I read recently that something strange to me stirred to tears. Eighteen years, Shawn Hornbeck, who was abducted by a predator at the age of eleven years in captivity (he was found two years) for over 4 years and I wanted some of his conclusions on experiences of Jaycee Dugard, who shares even at the age of eleven kidnapped and found recently after 18 years in captivity. He said in an interview: "I had a lot of anger built according to what is normal.

But that anger can control your life if you're not careful. Go to therapy helped me really everything is in order. One thing that really helped me ... could be that we know better than me what happened to me that I could all the horrible, horrible experience, I had to grow and mature spoken. I know it sounds crazy, but this experience made me a better man. "

Wow! After all the horrors he endured, this young man's journey from victim turned into a journey of a hero by finding gold in his experience, you will find the gift of his injury, and share that gift with others . He was released from the captivity of his anger and bitterness. This is the ultimate freedom! And this is no small matter.

I know what it means to be a prisoner of resentment. It has a current teacher of mine. For years, I had to "burn" addictive, unfair boil soup in an opera by resentment, the sense of sacrifice, treated and ripped off. Anyone who has ever been taken into resentment know what a robust force and addictive. Clinging to a sense of injustice is more important than anything, more important than freedom from him, even more important than love.

I vividly remember one day when I left for eighteen years in work Submarine Base New London, stuck in traffic and retain in a stew of my life and singing with tears and emotions strong, with playing in the Young Rascals song Radio, People Gotta Be Free: "All over the world to see as easy as people everywhere just want to be free .."

I felt a deep desire to be free from the bondage of negativity and anger. I started reading how my thoughts and attitudes create my reality. The truth, the strong resonance with me. I could see that I am of the opinion that creation has been my misfortune. Nobody made me angry ... I answered angrily, and then dwelling in him what in the pan, creating a negative attitude that I did on a magnet for misfortune, drawing more things to get angry. I realized that my resentment far more destructive, which was never someone to do something for me - I was only hurting me. I started in a constant quest to free myself limits my negative attitude.

In this research, I finally learned, a "buddy" to be, I discovered how my gold in my anger at seeing what is mine, see my hand in things, to see how I contributed my own misery, I have to depend on the choice of anger or let it go. I decided to be a bitter person or a better person because of my experiences. I decide to stay in the hell of the Heartbreak Hotel, or stay in love. I can choose captivity and freedom. And I can choose from gold to any situation.

I want to share some of the key to freedom that I found on the road. When I noticed the feeling of injustice and begin to spiral downward in the sticky boiling trapped space, I include:

1. I am, I testify, taking into account the natural resentment, as a tightening of my body, shallow breathing, eyes narrowed, lips pursed. Sensitization of contraction of the prison of my body around me and recognize that what I do for me, helps me to breathe and begin to move in the enlarged city.

2. I agree that it is what it is. I take a deep breath ... Accept ... There is nothing I can do about it ... He arrived ... He is the one.

3. I authorize and direct with what I feel. I say, "Yes, it sucks I understand how you would feel disturbed them feel complete ..." My hard line begins to melt, allowing me to feel the sadness that lies beneath the anger.

4. I generate kindness toward me, I speak with compassion, as if I speak of a wounded child, patting me verbally. "I'm sorry for what happened. I know it's hard for you. I'm here for you. I love you. "

5. Finally, I think the gold experience - learn from it and own what's mine, and then see how he made me a better person, a stronger person, an authorized person.

All this leads to freedom, with the added bonus of a few gold nuggets in your pocket to share with others. "There is gold in them thar evil and there is much at all!" Just think, when Shawn Hornbeck, gold found in his experience, then anyone can.

Have you ever been held captive by your anger? Which means that you have freed themselves from this bondage? What gold we recovered from the experience? If we are able to do so, as sung The Young Rascals, are "It is to learn of her voice in the mountains to the sea No two ways that people must be free."